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What to do When You Feel Depressed

By Jennifer McDougall

“You can be happy if you are willing to let go of your past and leave yourself unencumbered so you can fly freely.”

― Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

One of the best ways to overcome the depressive state you’re currently in is to look at what it is that is the driving force of those emotions. Is it stressing from work or financial issues? Is it a relationship that is draining you or not giving you what you need to thrive? Is it a recent loss of someone you loved or cared for? To overcome anything, we must first look at what is causing what we are feeling.

Depression leads many people to do many self-destructive things in their lives that that later down the road regret. It can drag you down to the depths of despair and leave you feeling hallow and alone. There may be days you find yourself not sleeping or sleeping too much; not eating or eating to much. Depression also affects how much or little we have the drive to socialize with other people, even those we love. Sometimes there is no explanation to why you feel sad, you just do. We understand that, but we want to help you get out of this slump and start living life in a more inspiring and uplifting way so that you can be the remarkable person you were created to be.

Here are 10 simple tricks to help you get up, get motivated, and start embracing life again.

  1. Take a long hot bath before bed with lavender oils and Epson salt to help relax your mind and body and detoxify your organs.
  2. Wake up early no matter what day it is and go for a walk, swim, hike, or bike ride.
  3. Remind yourself you are a strong individual who is loved and has so much grace and talent to give to this world.
  4. Eat proper meals and drink plenty of water so your body gets all of the nutrients it needs to stay healthy.
  5. Give thanks to those who are good to you. Give thanks to yourself because you offer so much light to this world. Give thanks for a beautiful day no matter if there is rain or sunshine. Just give thanks.
  6. Listen to uplifting music at home or in the car
  7. Avoid any consumption of drugs and alcohol because these things on lead to making poor choices
  8. Distance yourself from anyone who makes you feel less than, who discourages you, who doubts you, who is jealous of you, and who tries to rain on your beautiful day. Just smile and walk away.
  9. Pick up an enchanting novel that will let your mind wander and expand your imagination
  10. Give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself and let yourself rest when you’re worn out, drained or just need a day off. It’s okay. You must be good to yourself. This must be a priority.

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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10 Ways to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One

By Jennifer McDougall

 

Accepting the loss of someone you loved and cared for, no matter the time or relationship, it can be extremely difficult. Leaning on loved ones and avoiding the urge to isolate into your own personal shell is important.  When someone you love passes on, there is a numbing pain that is usually felt within our core. We want to run from pain too often when it arrives. When challenges or circumstances present themselves, it is best not to run or try and hide from the emotion or event that is or has recently taken place. By running, I am also talking about resorting to substances for temporary relief. You must know that drugs and alcohol won’t bring your loved one back and attempting to drown your pain with addictive substances can not only be fatal, but can also make matters much worse.

Recently, a friend of mine passed away from an on-going battle with addiction. Heroin was his coping mechanism. Heroin is also what took him from this world. He himself was looking for an escape. For years, he was in discomfort with himself; in pain for many of the pieces in his life never added up to a fulfilling measure (his own personal belief). The truth is, he was a bright young man with a great sense of humor. He was loved by many people, but sometimes (for reasons we don’t always understand) that’s not enough.

There are underlying reasons to why a person does what they do. Behind every person’s addiction, behind every reason to escape the consciousness we know and feel completely when sober, is an underlying reason driving the force of every thought and action.

When someone feels pain, they typically want to run away from it. The trouble is that pain is meant to be felt. It is a natural sensation that can benefit us in many ways. If you avoid the feelings of sadness and loss, you prologue the grieving process in which delays the natural cycle of healing. It is important that you feel everything during this process. If you don’t, it can lead to depression, anxiety, substance abuse, anger, insomnia, job loss, relationship trouble, financial difficulties, unresolved guilt, and many other things you are much better off without.

Symptoms of Grief:

  • Shock and Disbelief– There’s a feeling of numbness that usually hits when the news is broken to loved ones of a sudden passing. The disbelief and denial of the truth is common. Only by accepting the truth and handling the news in the most conscious and collective manner possible will we be better off.
  • Sadness – Despair, loneliness, a sense of emptiness and absence are common symptoms to feel during the grieving process. Crying is not a sin, so if you feel sad let it out. Feel what you feel.
  • Guilt – You may feel guilty for things you said or did to this person who has passed away. Even if the death was out of your control, you still might blame yourself for reasons you should only stop and learn to forgive now that the person has passed on.
  • Anger – You may be mad at yourself, God, the situation itself, the drug that caused the death, the driver behind the wheel, or the medical team who couldn’t save them. You could be mad due to feeling abandoned. That’s okay, but don’t stay mad for too long. Forgiveness goes a long way.
  • Fear – Loss can trigger feelings of worry, a loss of hope, and create insecurities.
  • Physical Symptoms (Nausea, fatigue, weight loss or weight gain, insomnia, body aches)

 

How to Cope with Loss:

  1. Seek support in others rather than grieving alone (join a support group, talk to a therapist, turn to family and friends)
  2. Take care of yourself (Be real with how YOU feel, express your emotions in a creative way, workout, shower daily, stay hydrated and eat nutritious meals)
  3. Do your best to be POSITIVE
  4. Engage in activities with others
  5. Avoid drugs and alcohol – treat yourself to a sweet dessert or a sweaty workout instead (total opposites, I know)
  6. Daily meditation for healing benefits and mental stability
  7. Make plans for the future to give yourself and others suffering something to look forward to
  8. Get out of the house at least once a day and be around other people
  9. Accept that the feelings of guilt, regret, pain, and suffering will soon pass
  10. Be patient through the grieving and healing process – take your time and allow yourself to go through every motion as you best feel fitting for yourself

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Why Don’t More People Go to Rehab?

By Jennifer McDougall

The number of overdoses killing millions of Americans leave us to question, why don’t those who desperately need addiction treatment ever receive it? Some may ask, “What will it take for them to finally agree to get the help they need?” Even after multiple DUIs, years of abuse and embarrassing themselves in front of friends and family, some people still refuse to get the help they need. The reasons why are tragic. With all of the resources available to people, they still refuse to grab a hold of the help being offered.

You most likely know someone who drowns themselves in substance abuse to cope with pain, past traumas, a chemical imbalance, or untrue beliefs. We turn on the evening news and see people all over the world hurting themselves and others from substance abuse. Maybe they have attempted rehab before and it didn’t work so they are unwilling to try it again; unwilling to even try something with a better approach. Unfortunately, there are many reasons why people refuse rehab for professional help. Here are five of them.

  1. They see addiction as a weakness and feel ashamed to admit they need professional help.

When we go through hard times or face difficulties in life, sometimes it can be hard to admit the suffering because we don’t want to look weak. Many of those in the most depth of helplessness refuse help the most.  They would rather try and pick up the pieces alone without bringing anyone into the solution. This is also known as pride. For many people, it’s more comfortable to suffer alone than to reach out to a friend, family member, or professional for help. Coming to terms with this issue can take a lot of time and hard work, but it is possible and it is not something anyone should feel bad about. Asking for help is not a weakness. It takes a great deal of strength and courage to admit you need help—that you can no longer do it on your own.

  1. They are afraid to lose their job or career.

When a person’s job or income is on the line, they will put aside just about anything to save it. The only problem with this is their job is probably suffering from the abuse that they are hiding behind closed doors. If they got professional help and healed the underlying conditions causing them to use and abuse drugs or alcohol, their career would more than likely sky rocket or improve drastically.

  1. They don’t have insurance coverage for treatment or enough money to fund it.

At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we accept a handful of insurance policies that cover treatment at our facilities. We offer 30-90-day treatment programs that most insurance policies will cover. For more information, please call (888) 397-0112 and ask to speak with our admissions department about pricing and program options. There are other resources out there such as SAMHSA which help those who have no money and limited insurance coverage. They can be reached by calling 1-800-662-4357.

  1. They are not ready to quit using.

Many of those who are in denial of having an addiction to drugs and alcohol are also not ready to quit using. The process to finally come around could take up to years for them to finally admit they need help and they can no longer live a life burying their hopes and dreams with substance abuse. Even when they see what the damage is doing to them physically, mentally, emotionally, and ruining their relationships, opportunities, and abilities—they still would rather continue using and abusing drugs and alcohol just to cope with the pain and suffering they can’t deal with without numbing it down with substances. It’s sad to watch someone you love and care about so much ruining their lives and belittling their potential just to stay high. We understand how truly difficult it is for those trying to get their loved one to come around and get the help they need. We ease into the approach. We yell and scream with tears dripping down our face unable to get through to the one we are trying so hard to help. If the person who’s using and abusing drugs and alcohol refuses to get help and are not ready to give it up, the likelihood of them to go to rehab can feel almost impossible.

  1. They are suicidal and would rather die than fight to overcome the battle of addiction.

Those who have literally given up on everything in their lives and find the only times they are slightly alive is when they high are experiencing some incredibly deep and dark battles. They should not be left alone. Be available as often to reach out to them, check in, give support at any given moment. Do not let them feel ignored or invisible. If you or someone you know is suicidal, please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Quotes by Chris Prentiss of Passages Addiction Treatment Centers

“When people who believe themselves to be addicts or alcoholics come under great stress or trauma, they mentally give themselves permission to drink or use drugs as a remedy.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“Every person in the AA program who’s successful is living proof that he or she does have power over addictive drugs and alcohol- the power to stop.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“If you can stop using substance or stop your addictive behavior for extended periods of time without craving, you are not dependent. You are dependent only if you can’t stop without physical or psychological distress (you have unpleasant physical and/or psychological withdrawal symptoms) or if you stop and then relapse.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“Who you allow into the circle of your life will make the difference in the quality of your life.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“The best way for you to get that new experience is to change your response to what happens.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“When a problem or a difficult situation arises, say to yourself, as if you already believe it: “This is for my benefit.”
Chris Prentiss, Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“The more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“We recognize that you’ve used substances to try to regain your lost balance, to try to feel the way you did before the need arose to use addictive drugs or alcohol. We know that you use substances to alter your mood, to cover up your sadness, to ease your heartbreak, to lighten your stress load, to blur your painful memories, to escape your hurtful reality, or to make your unbearable days or nights bearable.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“… all decisions and actions that will affect your relationship must be made by answering this single question: Will the action I am considering have a negative impact on my relationship? If the answer is yes, don’t do it.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“To preserve what you have, to keep your relationships alive and glowing, give generously- give of your time, you assets, your attention, your help, and your love. Give of yourself.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“We help our clients discover and correct the underlying conditions that are causing them to self-medicate, to seek relief in substances and addictive behavior.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“What you think of as your common sense in regard to relationships may be based on something you have come to believe that isn’t totally true or may not be true at all.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“Each of us is different and has different needs. In addition, our needs change over the course of our relationship. When you are committed to an enduring relationship with someone, you aren’t simply concerned about having your needs met. You also go out of your way to care for your loved one, being aware of and adaptable to their changing needs.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“The moment you make the internal changes necessary to obtain your goal, the outside world changes instantly.”
Chris Prentiss, Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“When nothing else worked, we created a holistic, hand-tailored program that saved Pax’s life. At Passages, he and I use what we learned in curing him to help others discover the roots of their addiction or alcoholism and break free.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

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Rated the #1 Rehab in the World by Healthcare Global, Passages is the most exclusive holistic, non-12-Step, drug and alcohol addiction program available today. Passages Malibu offers first class individualized treatment in a magnificent setting with complete privacy for our elite clientele.

Passages was created in 2001 by Chris and Pax Prentiss; a father and son team who have a sincere desire to help others overcome their addictions. As a result of their unwavering commitment to their clients and staff, and their cutting-edge holistic treatment program, Chris and Pax have led Passages to become the recognized industry leader, setting a new standard for the treatment of addiction internationally.

Passages’ fully customized treatment program–the same program described in The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure–first discovers and then heals the underlying causes of your addiction.

You’ll receive a treatment program that’s tailored specifically to your needs. We’ll work one-on-one with you, providing 60 hours of individual therapy per month with doctors and therapists who are at the forefront of modern addiction treatment—more than any other treatment center in the country. Our approach is grounded in holistic principles and focuses entirely on your mind, body and spirit so nothing is left undone. It’s our way of making sure the changes you make last a lifetime.

There’s a lot of life out there waiting to be lived. Let us help you find your way back to a life that is healthy, productive, and most importantly, happy. If you would like to experience our unparalleled addiction treatment program, or learn more about our revolutionary addiction treatment philosophy, call us now. (888) 397-0112. Insurance accepted. 

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Quit Smoking Cigarettes with These Simple Tips

Cigarette addiction is one of the most common addictions around the world. An estimated 1 billion people worldwide smoke cigarettes; of those 1 billion people, 5 million die each year from nicotine related illnesses. Are you one of the many people fighting to quit this bad habit? Take a moment and ask yourself this simple, yet important question: “When I get the urge to smoke, what is it that triggers me to want to light up?” It could be that you smoke as a habit when you’re bored, or in a social environment that causes you anxiety. Maybe it’s when you take a break at work and step outside with co-workers. Maybe it’s when you’re winding down at the end of the day. Maybe it’s after you have an intense conversation with someone who stresses you out. It could be part of your routine commute. Regardless of what your reason is, this habit is anything but a smart choice.

What are the effects of smoking cigarettes?

  • Cigarettes increase the risk of heart disease
  • Increases the risk of lung cancer
  • Smokers have a higher chance of heart attacks
  • Plays a major role in emphysema
  • Increases the risk of breast cancer
  • Weakens sense of taste and smell
  • Deterioration in mental health and function (Alzheimer’s disease and dementia)
  • Raises the risk of lupus – autoimmune disease
  • Creates unwanted fine lines on your hands, neck, and face
  • Cigarettes leave a strong foul odor on your body and clothes
  • They turn your teeth yellow
  • Most men and women find smoking to be unattractive and a deal breaker
  • Once you start smoking it can be very difficult to quit
  • Visible acceleration in aging
  • Can make you feel sluggish and unmotivated
  • Maternal smoking increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome
  • Damages internal tissue and blood vessels in the body
  • Men who smoke are more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction
  • Known to cause blood clots
  • Linked to colon cancer
  • Increases symptoms of depression

 

At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we understand that addiction of any kind is a challenging battle to overcome. Sometimes we need support and here at Passages, we are happy to provide you with these 20 helpful tips that will help you to overcome your addiction to nicotine and cigarettes.

How to Quit Smoking Cigarettes

  1. Be willing and ready to quit smoking
  2. Quit buying cigarettes
  3. Get rid of your lighters
  4. Create smoke free zones (your car, office, and outside patio)
  5. When you have a sudden desire to buy a pack of cigarettes, force yourself to keep driving- do not stop to buy cigarettes under any circumstances
  6. Daily meditation either in the morning or when you have a craving
  7. Schedule a few appointments for acupuncture within the first 30 days of quitting
  8. Choose from a list of herbal supplements
  9. Make a list of things to do instead of smoking
  10. Avoid being around people who smoke
  11. Change up your routine (even if those changes are small)
  12. Practice saying no with total confidence so you are not pressured into any bad choices
  13. Get moving and exercise daily
  14. Keep track of the amount of money you’re saving by not buying cigarettes
  15. Share the good news with your friends and family
  16. Give yourself some credit and reward yourself with a sweet treat or new outfit
  17. Get outside and breathe in fresh air every day, if possible
  18. Practice breathing exercises to relieve stress and cleanse your lungs – providing oxygen to your brain and bloodstream
  19. Create and maintain a healthy diet
  20. Stay hydrated with plenty of water throughout the day

 

What to expect when you quit smoking

Nicotine changes the way your brain operates so it should be no surprise when the withdraw symptoms kick in and you feel like a mess. Do not worry.  This is temporary. As your body adapts to no longer being fed nicotine it will adjust and you will feel remarkably healthier and better-off. Here is what to be look out for while going through the withdrawal phase.

  • Mood swings
  • Increased irritability
  • Change in appetite
  • Lack of sleep or insomnia
  • Surge of energy
  • Trouble focusing

 

Many Benefits of Not Smoking Cigarettes

There are several benefits to not smoking cigarettes. Here is just a handful to start.

  • Experience increased energy
  • Breathe more clearly
  • Have fresh breath
  • Regain your sense of taste and smell
  • Improve fertility
  • Feel healthier
  • No more “Smokers Cough”
  • Feel less stressed
  • Improve the quality of performance in the bedroom
  • Children and other family members are not affected by heavy toxins in cigarettes
  • Live a longer life
  • Smell beautifully again

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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What are the Underlying Causes of Addiction?

By Jennifer McDougall

Addiction (defined as a state characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences) generally begins with the desire to escape—pain, loss, heartache, rejection, discomfort, anxiety, chemical imbalances in the brain, and depression. When drugs and alcohol are consumed they affect how the brain operates and processes information. Three areas of the brain most affected by drugs and alcohol are the brain stem (controls heart rate, breathing, and sleeping patterns), the cerebral cortex (delivers information from our senses allowing us to see, feel, hear, and taste), and the limbic system (controls our ability to feel pleasure). After using drugs and alcohol for even a short period of time a person could experience immediate dependency (defined as an adaptive state associated with a withdrawal syndrome upon cessation of repeated exposure to a stimulus). They may feel the urge to continue using in order to keep them going and avoid the awful withdrawal symptoms that are associated with the use of drugs and alcohol.

In a recent study it was shown that an estimated 23.5 million Americans suffer from an addiction to drugs and alcohol. Of those 23.5 million only 1 out of 10 people receive the treatment they desperately need. About 570,000 people die each year because of an addiction to drugs and alcohol. So as you see, treatment is crucial.

At Passages, we do not believe that drug and alcohol dependency is a disease. Instead, we believe it is the result of one or more of the following four causes:

  1. Chemical imbalance
  2. Unresolved events from the past
  3. Beliefs you hold that are inconsistent with what is true
  4. Inability to cope with current conditions

Anyone who is abusing drugs and alcohol is doing so because of one or more of these four causes. Through extensive research and direct experience, we have learned that addiction is not the primary problem but rather the symptom of a deeper underlying issue.

Passages is proud to offer you the finest drug rehab & treatment program available anywhere. Our deluxe rehabilitation and treatment center has been rated #1 by Healthcare Global magazine. Forbes magazine also named Passages Malibu one of the most luxurious rehab centers in the world.

This recognition comes after years of perfecting our treatment program and sticking with our core philosophy for treating addiction. While most rehab centers still offer group meetings for treatment, we provide you with a customized, one-on-one therapy program tailored to your specific needs.

“I began asking myself just what my high was about. What did I do when I was high that I didn’t do when I was sober? What was wrong that heroin fixed?”
― Pax PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“A friend tells you the truth, that your breath stinks and you need a bath. An enemy tells you that you look great and you shouldn’t change a thing.”
― Nikki SixxThe Heroin Diaries: A Year In The Life Of A Shattered Rock Star 

“Alcohol and drugs are not the problems; they are what people are using to help themselves cope with the problems. Those problems always have both physical and psychological components- anything from anemia, hypoglycemia, or a sluggish thyroid to attention deficient disorder, brain-wave pattern imbalances, or deep emotional pain.”
― Chris PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“I spent the rest of that day and most of the night thinking about all the hundreds of people I had met in rehabs and sober living houses and on the streets. We were all medicating our fears and our pain!”
― Pax PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

To avoid getting wrapped up in the awful cycle of addiction, we recommend practicing these 7 healthy habits everyday.

  1. Surround yourself with positive influences who encourage you, motivate you, respect you, and tell you the truth.
  2. Eat right, stay hydrated, and exercise daily. This is essential to your physical and mental wellbeing.
  3. Practice meditation to care for your spiritual health.
  4. Maintain a positive outlook and perspective on life and current situations.
  5. Embrace a sober lifestyle. There are plenty of things you can do and enjoy without the use of drugs and alcohol.
  6. Keep your mind active and challenged by reading, writing, and pursuing your passions.
  7. Know when to put your foot down and say NO when you disagree or feel pressured into doing something you don’t feel right about.

At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we focus on helping our clients heal the underlying conditions that are causing them to use and abuse drugs and alcohol. Unlike most treatment centers, we do not label you an addict or believe that you are powerless. Instead we utilize a variety of 19 holistic healing methods that empower you to grow in ways you may never had thought possible before. Don’t wait another day to break free from the brutal cycle of addiction. The time has come to make a change and begin living a healthy, happy, and sober life. Call us today!

 

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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How to Talk to Your Loved One About Addiction

By Jennifer McDougall

Sitting back and watching a loved one spiral out of control is heart-wrenching. The person you once knew has become angry, unstable, and quite possibly irresponsible. We know that you want to help them as best as you can. Without forcing them into rehab, it’s better if they see the choice as their own, but that you helped open their eyes to acknowledge a life-threatening problem. Don’t wait for them to lose everything before you step in and lend a helping hand. There are many things to expect, as this is not always a comfortable or easy process. Here are a few things to keep in mind before you initiate the conversation to motivate them into the right direction.

  • The person you love and care deeply about is most likely in denial. They may not believe there is a problem to begin with. It will take time for them to accept the fact that they are on a dangerous path that could be fatal and completely detrimental to everyone involved. They may think they’re behavior is normal and since they are alive and functioning there is nothing to discuss. This is where they are wrong and you shouldn’t give up persistence on the matter.
  • Expect volatile and emotional behaviors as this confrontation will be upsetting for them. Try your best not to fuel the fire with more anger. Make your points clear to them in a way that will stop them from yelling after they’ve screamed at you, told you how wrong you are, and how little you know about anything they are experiencing.

Many of those who are addicted to drugs and alcohol spiral out of control whether it is immediately after being hooked on a substance or gradually over time. They desperately want to grab a hold of something that gives them purpose and fills void. Typically, they feel as though their lives are meaningless and no one really cares what they are experiencing.

Reaching for the bottle or a syringe to get high takes them away from the place they feel unwanted and forgotten. It’s painful for everyone involved: the addicted person, the family members, co-workers who witness the destruction, and friends who want to help. The addict may begin hearing that their condition is a disease and they are powerless over their own demons. That is not true. At Passages, we don’t believe that addiction is an incurable disease.  We believe in the empowering nature that as humans, we can overcome any obstacle that is put in our way; that if we look at what is causing the problem and focus on healing the underlying conditions then it is absolutely possible to break free and live an addiction-free life.

We believe that those who become dependent on drugs and alcohol do so for the following reasons:

  1. A chemical imbalance
  2. Events of the past you have not reconciled
  3. Current conditions you can’t cope with
  4. Things you believe that aren’t true

Chances are your loved one is struggling with one or more of these factors. In order for them to overcome their addiction they will need to enter a treatment center, such as Passages Addiction Treatment Centers where the healing process is focused on treating the underlying conditions. Talking to your loved one may seem uncomfortable at first, but it’s important that you don’t hesitate as the problem could grow increasingly worse. Here are 7 key points to focus on.

  1. Put a stop to enabling You may not realize it, but you could be making the problem worse by creating excuses for them, or sugarcoating the condition. Be stern about ground rules and the expectations you have for them. Hold them to their promises and commitments. Let nothing slide.
  2. Educate yourself as well as friends and family on everything there is to know about addiction. Start by purchasing a copy of The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure, written by Pax and Chris Prentiss.
  3. Ask questions. Find out what it is that is driving them to use drugs and alcohol as coping mechanisms. Let them open up to you. Listen attentively and make eye contact assuring them that you care and hear what they are saying.
  4. Make them feel loved instead of judged. Avoid using the term “addict” when addressing them. Don’t yell or make harsh threats. Try to avoid using phrases that belittle their worth. Instead, empower them and remind them of their strengths, aspirations, accomplishments, and how much they matter to you.
  5. Consider hiring a professional interventionist to conduct an intervention at home or somewhere private.
  6. Provide them with information on treatment centers. Give them brochures, contact information, photos, and enlightening reading material. Talk to them about the many treatment options available for them to get help and put a stop to this brutal battle.
  7. Suggest alternative options for coping with pain, social anxiety, or trauma. Provide them with a list of things to do and give them a sense of hope that things can get better with change. Life doesn’t have to be unmanageable or painful. It can be fulfilling and full of life if you’re willing to make real lifestyle changes.

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Addiction, Dependency, Relationships, Self-Improvement

10 Signs of Self-Destruction

By Jennifer McDougall

There’s a chance you know someone who has self-destructive behavior. You may have already recognized the signs and maybe you’ve talked to them about your concerns. The truth is that they might not realize what they are doing. Typically, those who have self-destruct tendencies do so for attention, self-pity, or maybe it’s because they have a load of issues they are unwilling to deal with. It’s an obvious cry for help. Instead, they choose to act out and behave in a careless manner that benefits no one, not even themselves, regardless of the people they drag down with them.

Here are 10 signs someone you know is self-destructive:

  1. Disregard for personal safety and security
  2. Careless spending
  3. Negative conversation
  4. Poor choices in friendships
  5. Blame others for their circumstances
  6. Overindulgence; purchases, eating habits, etc.
  7. Suicidal or bodily cutting
  8. Overuse of drugs and/or alcohol
  9. Refuse professional help or advice
  10. Ignore personal routine tasks; hygiene, personal finances, etc.

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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What is Self-Destruction?

Self-destruction comes in many forms. It can be mental, emotional or physical.

In human context, selfdestructive behavior is a widely used phrase that conceptualizes certain kinds of destructive acts as belonging to the self. It also has the property that it characterizes certain kinds of self-inflicted acts as destructive 

It is possible that you or someone you know is self-destructive. It can become a bad habit that can only be corrected when the person realizes what they are doing and wants to stop. Sometimes it takes a person to hit rock bottom to then ask, “How did this happen to me?”

What Does it Mean to be Self-Destructive?

Many of those who are self-destructive have low self-esteem or self-respect.  This can be brought on by a personal life event such as a change in job status, death of a loved one, or past trauma.  Self-destructive behavior can also be a result of previous neglect, abuse, bullying (classmates, co-workers, ex-lovers, etc.), or a lack of accomplishment. A person may react with carelessness, anger, uncontrollable emotions, and irrational actions.  Feelings of sadness, loneliness, and depression can be overwhelming, and cause the person to lose hope in life. In many cases, they will pretend to be happy and act like everything is fine; not admitting that they are struggling to cope.

You can help a loved one who suffers from self-destruction by being supportive, loving, kind, reassuring of their capabilities, and letting them know that they are special.  There are cases that require professional help.  To learn more, read “10 Signs of Self-Destruction” on our blog.

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Learning to be With Your Pain Instead of Escaping It

By Jennifer McDougall

Pain is the most common reason behind addiction. It comes in many forms; physical, mental, and emotional pain. It stems from the brain and flows into your central nervous system. An extreme amount of pain and discomfort can potentially send you right over the edge, but if you listen closely, it can also be the most helpful thing that can happen for you. The majority of people who seek medical attention or temporarily relief through the use of drugs and alcohol do so, because they are experiencing some sort of pain. It is in fact, a survival mechanism to help protect your body. Those who are born without the ability to feel things due to issues within the central nervous system typically do not live long healthy lives. We must understand the importance of being able to feel everything our bodies are trying to communicate to us. When people use drugs and alcohol to numb their pain, their perceptions towards situations are altered, along with their consciousness and they increase the risk of making really lousy decisions.

Whether it’s from abuse (of any kind), trauma, fear, anxiety, or physical ailments; we have all felt pain one way or another. Throughout this journey in life, we must all learn to adjust to the changes that come and go. One thing that is guaranteed is change itself. Change is inevitable. What is causing your pain and sorrow one day could be gone the next.  By trying to escape pain there is an immense potential of making matters extremely worse for ourselves and those we love. It’s important to be fully conscious and aware of our surroundings so that we can make good decisions and know when something is not right. Because of perhaps the horrible things that have happened in your life your body reminds you when something feels off or dangerous. When our heart breaks for the first time we learn to be more cautious in future relationships. When we cut our finger slicing veggies, or burn our hand on a hot pan, we learn to be more careful in the kitchen. When we have our first car accident we learn to be more aware of others on the road and pay close attention to what’s going on around us at all times. Pain teaches us lessons in life and that’s something we shouldn’t ignore.

There are times in your life when you may be stressed, overwhelmed, broken, hurt beyond belief, and sad over a loss. Pain is a natural feeling that is meant to be felt. To be with your pain means to accept what is happening in your life and throughout your body. We have a natural right to feel everything that this sometimes cruel and unfair world throws at us. The best part about all of it is that you have a choice. You can either choose to accept what is, let go of what is not (anymore), and cope with an attitude of optimism that circumstances will improve.

Your mind and body must heal from the pain you have experienced over time. This can be done by using therapy methods such as the ones used at Passages Addiction Treatment Centers. For anyone who is or has suffered with emotional, mental, or physical pain, knows the discomfort that can be debilitating. When you experience pain there is an instant shock-wave like feeling that erupts and at times, it feels so uncontrollable. When this happens, you must first practice deep breathing and try to remain calm.

Reaching for the bottle or a substance to get high isn’t the solution. When you find yourself in a situation where you are sinking deep with a weight of pain; call a friend, go for a quiet walk, have a cup of tea, write in a private journal, or turn up your favorite song and sing it out loud. Life is better when you can learn to manage your pain instead of escaping it. Other means of pain relieve can also be helpful such as acupuncture, massage, meditation, and stretching exercises. A healthy diet, drinking plenty of water, and 7-8 hours of nightly rest will also help.

 

 

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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10 Facts About Passages Addiction Treatment Centers

By Jennifer McDougall

Addiction treatment is essential in healing the underlying causes to a person’s addiction. At Passages, we are proud to offer our clients the best possible treatment available, anywhere. Besides being named the “Number 1 Treatment Center in the World” by Healthcare Global, as well as one of the “Most Luxurious Places to Dry Out” by Forbes, Passages Addiction Treatment Centers are the most unrivaled, world-class treatment centers available today. We have the finest facilities in the world for treating drug and alcohol addiction, but what really sets us apart is our effective treatment programs.

Throughout the years, Passages has helped heal thousands of people from all over the world. Because of Passages success in the leading the treatment industry, there are many questions we receive. Here are 10 interesting facts about Passages and the team that helps save so many lives day after day. For more information please see the contact number at the bottom of this page.

  1. Passages accepts a handful of private insurance.

Call us toll-free today at (888) 397-0112 to get a quote. Please note while we do accept some payment from some of the private insurance carriers, we do not accept Medicare or Medicaid.

  1. We have been treating the underlying causes of addiction for over a decade.

Passages Malibu recently celebrated 14 years of ending thousands of people’s addictions to drugs and alcohol. We specialize in effective one-on-one treatment and use 19 different holistic treatment methods in which every client benefits from.

  1. Affordable treatment is available at Passages Ventura.

Chris and Pax Prentiss founded passages Ventura in 2009. The tranquil setting and caring staff truly makes healing both comfortable and reliable for every client who participates in the program. It has helped thousands of people build the skills they need to heal the underlying conditions causing them to use, and begin a healthy and addiction- free life. Visit www.PassagesVentura.com for detailed information.

  1. Pax Prentiss celebrated 16 years of sobriety in 2016.

Pax and his father Chris Prentiss co-founded Passages Malibu after Pax had many failed attempts to get clean and stay sober while battling an addiction to drugs and alcohol for 10 years. They created Passages using the methods and the cutting-edge philosophy that Pax used to cure his own addiction and overcome the underlying issues driving him to repeatedly turn to drugs and alcohol for many years.

Pax serves as the CEO and co-founder of Passages Addiction Treatment Center. He leads Passages whole-heartedly with the intent to help each individual who enters Passages Addiction Treat Center overcome their addiction and go on to live a fulfilling life, addiction-free, just as he was able to do.

On September 4th, 2016 Pax celebrated 16 years of sobriety. This is an exciting celebration and we are all so proud of everything he has accomplished over the years and continues to do to help those facing the battle of addiction.

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  1.     Passages is not a 12 Step program, nor do we believe that addiction is a disease.

At Passages we do not label you an addict nor do we believe you are powerless over your addiction. Instead, we use holistic therapy methods to treat the underlying condition that is causing a person to use drugs or alcohol. We do not believe that addiction is a disease. Our research shows us that people have a dependency on drugs and alcohol because one or all of the four reasons:

  1. A chemical imbalance

  2. Past trauma or unresolved circumstances

  3. Difficulty managing current conditions

  4. Untrue beliefs or an imprisonment of a negative perspective

Anyone who is abusing drugs and alcohol is doing so because of one or more of these four causes. Through extensive research and direct experience, we have learned that addiction is not the primary problem but rather the symptom of a deeper underlying issue.

We began sharing our revolutionary, non 12-step holistic treatment philosophy with the world in 2001 and have been regarded as leaders in the addiction field ever since. Before Passages, addiction was viewed as an incurable disease accompanied by hopelessness, stigma, and shame. We’ve found a better way. Instead, we approach addiction as a completely treatable condition.

  1. Passages offers both intensive inpatient and outpatient addiction rehab services.

We had several program options for those in need of treatment. We offer intensive inpatient treatment in Malibu and Ventura, California. We also have a beautiful sober living home right on the beach in Santa Monica, where you can receive outpatient services during your stay. For details, please call (888) 397-0112.

  1. We have a gorgeous sober living home located right on the beach in the vibrant city of Santa Monica, California.

For details, please call 424-231-8100.

  1. Our remarkably trained team of professional therapists and medical personnel are licensed and experienced in the field of addiction and holistic wellness.

At Passages Malibu, we offer more unique treatment methods than any other rehab center in the world. Unlike the cookie-cutter group approach offered by most rehab centers, our program is customized specifically for each client who walks through our doors. We consider each individual situation and scenario before a personal addiction treatment plan is introduced and implemented. By utilizing a set of diverse methods of addiction treatment, we are able to deal with your addiction from all angles and concentrate on every aspect of your healing process.

  1.   Passages has a Wellness Store full of wonderful products for you to choose from.

Our bookstore offers Books, Audio CDs, and Merchandise, including our flagship addiction treatment book, the world-renown The Alcoholism & Addiction Cure by Pax and Chris Prentiss, co-founders of Passages Malibu and Passages Ventura. This groundbreaking book details Pax’s harrowing 10-year addiction to heroin, cocaine, and alcohol and outlines the treatment plan he used to get sober – the same treatment plan model used at Passages since 2001.

The store also includes over a dozen books penned by Pax’s father Chris, who is also an established author of books on personal growth, including several books on the I Ching, as well as the wildly popular Zen and the Art of Happiness and The Little Book of Secrets, among others.

We invite you to browse our full list of titles. Give yourself or a loved one the gift of empowerment today. www.PassagesWellnessStore.com

  1. We allow you to stay connected with close friends and family members during your time with us at Passages.

Unlike other centers that don’t allow you to have your cell phone or computer with you, we believe its important for you to have the comfort and support from your loved ones while in treatment.

 

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Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Addiction, Dependency, Withdrawal

10 Signs You Are Addicted to Love

By: Jennifer McDougall

Just as alcohol, cocaine, ecstasy, and heroin provide a temporary sense of escape for a person from their reality, anyone who is addicted to love, seeks similar relief, and can face severe physical and emotional withdrawal symptoms. Someone who is addicted to love develops obsessive behaviors and thoughts. They get high on the fantasy they create in their head about a particular person or connection, or likewise they get addicted to the love, intimacy, and physical connection they feel when they are with a partner. That feeling is their dope and they feel they need it like the oxygen they breathe in order to survive.

In many cases, a person who is addicted to love will also find themselves in a co-dependent relationship, which is very common. They may turn to drugs and alcohol to temporarily numb the pain from the deep desire for the other person, or pain they feel from from rejection. They also feel withdrawal symptoms when they are not with the one they love.

Love addiction is actually not as uncommon as most people think. Many people are not as aware or understand the addiction so they do not pay much attention to the signs. And, just like drugs and alcohol, anyone who is addicted to love or in a co-dependent relationship should seek therapy, and proper treatment in order to heal the underlying conditions before the cycle escalates, and the dependency becomes more intense, and life threatening.

Here are 10 major signs to tell if you are addicted to love:

  1. You know the relationship you’re in is bad for you and you can physically feel how unhealthy being in the relationship is, yet you do not make an effective effort to end it.
  2. Fear and anxiety consume you at the thought of ending the relationship.
  3. You make shallow excuses and create reasons why you should stay in the relationship.
  4. After you eventually end a relationship, you suffer painful withdrawal symptoms (and/or unhealthy behaviors) such as, insomnia, vomiting, nausea, deep depression, panic attacks, dramatic weight changes, anger, rage, emptiness, complete loss of purpose, stalking, suicidal thoughts, begging for a chance to be connected, and dramatic episodes (sometimes very violent).
  5. You lower your standards when it comes to dating someone just to avoid being alone.
  6. Every time you have the urge to contact the other person you always say to yourself “one more text,” or “one more phone call” just as someone addicted to drugs or alcohol would say about using “just this one last time.”
  7. Your relationship or love interest consumes your day to day life, separating you from friends and family, your goals, and all of your true, authentic passions that bring you honest joy and happiness.
  8. You would give up anything and everything in the world just to be with someone, even after they have broken up with you multiple times, cheated on you, lied to you, and purposely fed your insecurities.
  9. Obsessive behaviors such as excessive text messages, phone calls, stalking on and off-line, checking your cell phone every couple minutes to see if they have contacted you, fantasizing about them and the relationship you could have, or picking out what kind of dish wear and curtains you would buy for your first home while you two are out shopping on your first.
  10. You feel as if you cannot live or be happy without this person. You want to be around them, with them, just near them all the time. When you are away from them you feel depressed, sad, and lonely. When they aren’t reciprocating the connection you think exists, you feel a lack of drive and passion. It is as if you need this person in your life in order to be happy and survive.

 

What to do:

The most important thing to do is find out the reason why. In order to overcome the addiction you must understand why you are doing what you are doing. Many people who have an addiction to love, like drug or alcohol addictions,  have underlying issues causing them to chase the euphoric feeling  that physical and emotional connections bring them, which is similar to a cocaine addiction.

We suggest looking within yourself to find the underlying issue (abandonment, lack of self -esteem, or traumatic experiences) so that you can move on and live an addiction-free and fulfilling life. If you need professional help, do not hesitate to seek therapy and professional treatment before the situation becomes life threatening.
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