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Repairing Broken Relationships in Recovery

By Jennifer McDougall


Healing broken relationships in recovery is extremely important. Letting go of the past, asking and accepting of forgiveness, being authentic in your actions, and using the tools you acquired during rehab is essential to your sobriety. Broken relationships carry a weight of regret and miscommunication. There’s a strong chance that throughout your days of substance abuse, you most likely hurt people along the way. When we use and abuse drugs and alcohol, we lose our authenticity—meaning we alter our consciousness to be less than intentional and in many cases hurtful to those we love and care about.

Drugs and alcohol have been ruining families and relationships of all types for years. That is no secret. Many arguments and disagreements are fueled by intoxicated behavior. The end result is rarely a pretty sight to see. Picking up the broken pieces from the destruction caused by carelessness is a process. To mend these broken relationships the following tips will help you in repairing them in the days to come.

  1. Communicate with Honesty
  2. Listen to Them Carefully
  3. Acknowledge Yours Short-Comings
  4. Ask and Accept Forgiveness
  5. Keep Your Promises (Rebuild Trust)
  6. Stay Sober
  7. Be Active in the Relationship
  8. Set Realistic Expectations
  9. Focus on Those Who Support You
  10. Be Patient as the Wounds Heal

Also read: Marriage & Family Therapy at Passages Malibu

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Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Addiction, Recovery, Rehab

How to Practice Mindfulness

By Jennifer McDougall


Being mindful means to be aware and accepting of the present moment, your experiences, and sensations. It’s this therapeutic practice that helps ease your mind and body of anxiety, tension, cravings, and emotions. After eight weeks of practicing and training your mind and body to be mindful, studies have shown a great deal of improvement in the immune system; making it easier to fight off illness. This practice has also proven to increase positive emotions while reducing stress and negative emotions such as depression and cravings for addictive substances. Mindfulness has many other benefits such as, improving memory, empathy, focus, enhances relationships, and improves sleep patterns.

You do not have to be still or act as a statue to be mindful. It is simply living your life moment by moment. It helps to pay close attention to your breathing, especially when energy and emotions are intense or begin to increase. To best recognize when these emotions or energy begins to rise, you must remain aware—moment by moment. Remaining present in each and every moment means being completely conscious and not altering that consciousness with polluted substances, such as drugs or alcohol.

To achieve ultimate mindfulness, meditation is highly recommended.

Mindfulness Techniques

  • Basic Mindfulness Meditation – Paying close attention to the present experience moment by moment
  • Urge Surfing – A tool to stay focused from all distractions causing an impulse of desire for addictive substances. Without feeding it, repressing it, or fighting it let the be just that—an urge. Let it come, then set it free.
  • Body Sensations – Being aware of vibrations, temperature, pressure, lightness and heaviness, hardness and softness, itching, numbness, tingling, and all other sensations perceived within the body
  • Sensory – Be aware of sounds, sights, smells, flavors, or touches
  • Emotions – To feel physical expression completely

Benefits of Mindfulness:

  • Helps relieve stress
  • Improves focus and mental clarity
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Reduces chronic pain
  • Helps treat heart disease
  • Improves sleep
  • Break free from addiction and anxiety
  • Mend broken relationships
  • Helps end self-destructive thoughts and behaviors
  • Overcome obsessive-compulsive disorders
  • Helps to be more engaged in activities
  • Form deeper connections with others
  • Less worry about the future or past regret
  • Heal from painful emotions or past trauma
  • Less concern about self-esteem, ego, or success
  • Expands the capacity to deal with unfavorable events

How to Practice Mindful Meditation:

  • Allow 10-15 minutes of quiet time away from your computer, cell phone, or any other outside distractions
  • Find a comfortable place to sit in the quietness of your home or office
  • Do no operate heavy machinery or drive while attempting to meditate or while listening to a guided meditation
  • Start with a guided meditation
  • Breathe slow, deep, and steady
  • Observe your inner thoughts, emotions, and sensations without judging any of them as they come and go (just be one with the flow)
  • Meditating can be challenging in the beginning, but if you stay with it you will soon come to experience the many benefits
  • Practice Mindful Meditation once a day if not more

Aside from meditating, mindfulness should be practiced throughout the day—moment by moment. It is an awareness you will soon become accustom to that will help you in more ways than one. Below are several meditations you can try today and throughout the week.

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Urge Surfing Mindful Meditation:

Basic Mindfulness Meditation:

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Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Discovering Self-Acceptance in Alternative Rehab

By Jennifer McDougall


People often ask, “Why are you being so hard on yourself?” This usually happens when someone is not fully self-acceptant in who they are as a person. Judgement of oneself causes us to reject certain aspects of our being. Self-acceptable is often mistaken to be the same as self-esteem, but it is not. Instead, self-acceptance is simple. It means to like the person you are and accept the things you don’t. This doesn’t not mean you claim yourself to be perfect. It just means you recognize who you are and without rejecting that person, you respect, love, and care for them—just as you would for someone else whom you accept as they are.

As children, we learn to act or behave a certain way to be accepted by our parents. As adults, we do so to be accepted by our friends, spouses, or society in general. This is where we begin to steer wrong and get off track. It isn’t about being accepted by anyone else. If you do not have self-acceptance in your life, things tend to be harder for you in life. You take criticism, set-backs, and rejection personally.  This then turns into self-doubt. We then question where we went wrong or what is the matter with us; why we not good enough to be accepted by others.


“Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.”

― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom


Many doctors believe that negative emotions and thoughts about oneself is the cause to disease and illness. At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we believe that addiction is caused by the following reasons:

  1. Chemical imbalance
  2. Unresolved events from the past
  3. Beliefs you hold that are inconsistent with what is true
  4. Inability to cope with current conditions


Now you may be asking yourself, “Okay. Well, how can I learn to accept myself so I can be a stronger individual who doesn’t beat themselves up over what other people may think or how I look at myself in a negative way?” Below are 10 helpful tips to begin practicing self-acceptance. If you have questions or comments, please fill out the form at the bottom of this page.

  1. Point out your strengths and be proud of them
  2. Create a reliable support system
  3. Rid our life of as much negativity as possible (pay attention to who and what you’re surrounded by)
  4. Forgive yourself of past mistakes or flaws you see in yourself
  5. Donate your time and charitable items for a greater cause to help others
  6. Know that accepting yourself for who are is not giving up on striving to be a better person
  7. Treat yourself with kindness (take care of your mental, physical, and emotional health)
  8. Think kindly about yourself
  9. Speak well of others
  10. Reconcile the loss of a dream or goal that fell through – learn to make peace with it


Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Addiction, Dependency, Uncategorised

Why Don’t More People Go to Rehab?

By Jennifer McDougall

The number of overdoses killing millions of Americans leave us to question, why don’t those who desperately need addiction treatment ever receive it? Some may ask, “What will it take for them to finally agree to get the help they need?” Even after multiple DUIs, years of abuse and embarrassing themselves in front of friends and family, some people still refuse to get the help they need. The reasons why are tragic. With all of the resources available to people, they still refuse to grab a hold of the help being offered.

You most likely know someone who drowns themselves in substance abuse to cope with pain, past traumas, a chemical imbalance, or untrue beliefs. We turn on the evening news and see people all over the world hurting themselves and others from substance abuse. Maybe they have attempted rehab before and it didn’t work so they are unwilling to try it again; unwilling to even try something with a better approach. Unfortunately, there are many reasons why people refuse rehab for professional help. Here are five of them.

  1. They see addiction as a weakness and feel ashamed to admit they need professional help.

When we go through hard times or face difficulties in life, sometimes it can be hard to admit the suffering because we don’t want to look weak. Many of those in the most depth of helplessness refuse help the most.  They would rather try and pick up the pieces alone without bringing anyone into the solution. This is also known as pride. For many people, it’s more comfortable to suffer alone than to reach out to a friend, family member, or professional for help. Coming to terms with this issue can take a lot of time and hard work, but it is possible and it is not something anyone should feel bad about. Asking for help is not a weakness. It takes a great deal of strength and courage to admit you need help—that you can no longer do it on your own.

  1. They are afraid to lose their job or career.

When a person’s job or income is on the line, they will put aside just about anything to save it. The only problem with this is their job is probably suffering from the abuse that they are hiding behind closed doors. If they got professional help and healed the underlying conditions causing them to use and abuse drugs or alcohol, their career would more than likely sky rocket or improve drastically.

  1. They don’t have insurance coverage for treatment or enough money to fund it.

At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we accept a handful of insurance policies that cover treatment at our facilities. We offer 30-90-day treatment programs that most insurance policies will cover. For more information, please call (888) 397-0112 and ask to speak with our admissions department about pricing and program options. There are other resources out there such as SAMHSA which help those who have no money and limited insurance coverage. They can be reached by calling 1-800-662-4357.

  1. They are not ready to quit using.

Many of those who are in denial of having an addiction to drugs and alcohol are also not ready to quit using. The process to finally come around could take up to years for them to finally admit they need help and they can no longer live a life burying their hopes and dreams with substance abuse. Even when they see what the damage is doing to them physically, mentally, emotionally, and ruining their relationships, opportunities, and abilities—they still would rather continue using and abusing drugs and alcohol just to cope with the pain and suffering they can’t deal with without numbing it down with substances. It’s sad to watch someone you love and care about so much ruining their lives and belittling their potential just to stay high. We understand how truly difficult it is for those trying to get their loved one to come around and get the help they need. We ease into the approach. We yell and scream with tears dripping down our face unable to get through to the one we are trying so hard to help. If the person who’s using and abusing drugs and alcohol refuses to get help and are not ready to give it up, the likelihood of them to go to rehab can feel almost impossible.

  1. They are suicidal and would rather die than fight to overcome the battle of addiction.

Those who have literally given up on everything in their lives and find the only times they are slightly alive is when they high are experiencing some incredibly deep and dark battles. They should not be left alone. Be available as often to reach out to them, check in, give support at any given moment. Do not let them feel ignored or invisible. If you or someone you know is suicidal, please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.


Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Recovery, Self-Improvement

5 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety

By Jennifer McDougall


Have you ever felt uncomfortable in a social setting where your nerves are racing around from beneath your skin, you feel overwhelming and intense anxiety, and want to hide out in the corner of a room? This is what it feels like to have social anxiety. Its more common than you may think. For some, they can go out and be in a public setting where they interact with others and feel completely comfortable and confident. For others, they participate in these interactions only to then go home and sink deep into an obsession of overthinking every move they made and every word they said.

“Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia, is an anxiety disorder in which a person has an excessive and unreasonable fear of social situations. Anxiety (intense nervousness) and self-consciousness arise from a fear of being closely watched, judged, and criticized by others.” – Defined by WebMD

Behavioral symptoms

  • Fear of being judged
  • Avoiding social interactions altogether
  • Fear of talking to others
  • Smoking cigarettes
  • Excessive drinking or drug use
  • Avoiding direct eye contact because of self-doubt
  • Trembling, shaky voice, blushing, and/or sweating
  • Avoiding situations that you may be the center of attention
  • Worrying about the worst possible outcome of the situation
  • Analyzing the event after its taken place

Physical symptoms

  • Fast heartbeat
  • Dizziness
  • Blurred vision
  • Stomach ache
  • Muscle tension
  • Confusion or “out of body” feeling

There are many ways you can overcome this fearful situation. We have 5 helpful ways for you to breakthrough from this turbulent feeling. We want to help you feel more at ease when you’re around other people and have to interact when it feels most uncomfortable. Here are some suggestions.

  1. Try visualization
  2. Deep breathing exercises
  3. Work with a therapist
  4. Go to more social functions
  5. Identify your behaviors so you can eliminate them

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Recovery, Self-Improvement

30 Simple Tips for Self-Care

By Jennifer McDougall


Do you ever get so busy you forget to take care of yourself? You get so caught up in the day-to-day motions of work, family, and all the plans you set out for yourself, therefore, you unfortunately forget to leave time practice self-care. This happens to all of us from time to time because we aren’t always careful to pay attention to when we need to slow down and focus on treating ourselves. When life gets busy, remind yourself that you need to slow down and take a break. Don’t exhaust yourself. Stay connected to your mind, body, and soul. As a result, you to be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled.

Here are 30 tips or suggestions for you to stay in tune with yourself, making sure you feel great, look great, and take the best care of yourself so you can be productive in all areas of your life.

  1. Practice good hygiene every single day
  2. Eat healthy meals and stay properly fueled
  3. Surround yourself with positive people
  4. Forgive yourself wholeheartedly
  5. Be gentle with your thoughts- your mind is a powerful thing
  6. Keep your home clean and organized
  7. Get outside and soak up the sun
  8. Take a nap
  9. Go to sleep early & wake up early
  10. Stop beating yourself up for not adding up to your own standards
  11. Avoid drugs and alcohol
  12. Drink plenty of water to keep your body hydrated everyday
  13. Avoid negative influences and interactions
  14. Stop comparing yourself to others—we are all on our path, respect that
  15. Do something nice for someone else
  16. Think things out before making any rational decisions—feel it out
  17. Pay attention to how you’re feeling. Listen to your body.
  18. Exercise for at least 30 minutes’ daily
  19. Journal your thoughts and daily experiences
  20. Build strong relationships with friends, family, and co-workers
  21. Allow yourself to have new experiences
  22. Step outside of your comfort zone with fearlessness and confidence
  23. Read for 20 minutes a day
  24. Mediate at least once a day
  25. If it doesn’t feel right or doesn’t suit you, say “NO” and don’t feel bad about it
  26. Pay your bills on time
  27. Spend less. Save more.
  28. Treat yourself to fresh flowers and desserts
  29. Turn up the music—sway to the rhythm
  30. Take the proper vitamins and supplements your body needs to thrive


Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Quotes by Chris Prentiss of Passages Addiction Treatment Centers

“When people who believe themselves to be addicts or alcoholics come under great stress or trauma, they mentally give themselves permission to drink or use drugs as a remedy.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“Every person in the AA program who’s successful is living proof that he or she does have power over addictive drugs and alcohol- the power to stop.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“If you can stop using substance or stop your addictive behavior for extended periods of time without craving, you are not dependent. You are dependent only if you can’t stop without physical or psychological distress (you have unpleasant physical and/or psychological withdrawal symptoms) or if you stop and then relapse.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“Who you allow into the circle of your life will make the difference in the quality of your life.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“The best way for you to get that new experience is to change your response to what happens.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“When a problem or a difficult situation arises, say to yourself, as if you already believe it: “This is for my benefit.”
Chris Prentiss, Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“The more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become.”
Chris Prentiss, Zen and the Art of Happiness

“We recognize that you’ve used substances to try to regain your lost balance, to try to feel the way you did before the need arose to use addictive drugs or alcohol. We know that you use substances to alter your mood, to cover up your sadness, to ease your heartbreak, to lighten your stress load, to blur your painful memories, to escape your hurtful reality, or to make your unbearable days or nights bearable.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“… all decisions and actions that will affect your relationship must be made by answering this single question: Will the action I am considering have a negative impact on my relationship? If the answer is yes, don’t do it.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“To preserve what you have, to keep your relationships alive and glowing, give generously- give of your time, you assets, your attention, your help, and your love. Give of yourself.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“We help our clients discover and correct the underlying conditions that are causing them to self-medicate, to seek relief in substances and addictive behavior.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“What you think of as your common sense in regard to relationships may be based on something you have come to believe that isn’t totally true or may not be true at all.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“Each of us is different and has different needs. In addition, our needs change over the course of our relationship. When you are committed to an enduring relationship with someone, you aren’t simply concerned about having your needs met. You also go out of your way to care for your loved one, being aware of and adaptable to their changing needs.”
Chris Prentiss, The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

“The moment you make the internal changes necessary to obtain your goal, the outside world changes instantly.”
Chris Prentiss, Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“When nothing else worked, we created a holistic, hand-tailored program that saved Pax’s life. At Passages, he and I use what we learned in curing him to help others discover the roots of their addiction or alcoholism and break free.”
Chris Prentiss, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

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Rated the #1 Rehab in the World by Healthcare Global, Passages is the most exclusive holistic, non-12-Step, drug and alcohol addiction program available today. Passages Malibu offers first class individualized treatment in a magnificent setting with complete privacy for our elite clientele.

Passages was created in 2001 by Chris and Pax Prentiss; a father and son team who have a sincere desire to help others overcome their addictions. As a result of their unwavering commitment to their clients and staff, and their cutting-edge holistic treatment program, Chris and Pax have led Passages to become the recognized industry leader, setting a new standard for the treatment of addiction internationally.

Passages’ fully customized treatment program–the same program described in The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure–first discovers and then heals the underlying causes of your addiction.

You’ll receive a treatment program that’s tailored specifically to your needs. We’ll work one-on-one with you, providing 60 hours of individual therapy per month with doctors and therapists who are at the forefront of modern addiction treatment—more than any other treatment center in the country. Our approach is grounded in holistic principles and focuses entirely on your mind, body and spirit so nothing is left undone. It’s our way of making sure the changes you make last a lifetime.

There’s a lot of life out there waiting to be lived. Let us help you find your way back to a life that is healthy, productive, and most importantly, happy. If you would like to experience our unparalleled addiction treatment program, or learn more about our revolutionary addiction treatment philosophy, call us now. (888) 397-0112. Insurance accepted. 


Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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God’s Game by Chris Prentiss

A gift for You

On April 16th, 2016, I will have been on this lovely planet for 80 years. People close to me ask what I want for my birthday. I have all I want. Instead, I want to give a gift.

This is my fifteenth book. My original plan was to have my distributor provide this book to the bookstores and online booksellers to begin sales this month of April. Instead, I’m giving this book to You and to the world as a gift. You may share all or any part of it in any form so long as it is provided free of charge.



This little book is dedicated to You

who may still be wondering:

Who am I?

Where did I come from?

What am I doing here?


What’s it all about?




It’s three-thirty in the morning; that quiet time when the world is renewing itself.  I’m sitting before my fireplace watching the flames turn the logs into glowing shapes and strange images. The crackle and pop of the fire and the occasional shower of sparks is mesmerizing.  The unburned portions of logs have created dark caves through which I can see the white hot embers at the heart of the fire and, like many of our ancient ancestors over the seven hundred thousand or so years since fire was first mastered, I’m staring into the flames, enchanted, seeing fantastic images, letting thoughts come as they will.

As I sit here, half wondering, half dreaming, I find myself thinking what it would be like to be God.  You know, the popular conception of God: all powerful, all-seeing, all-knowing and omnipresent, meaning: “All over all at once.”  I’m startled at my first thought:


There’s no one to talk to, not on God’s level, and even if there were, what’s to talk about when everything is known, past, present, and future?  There’s nothing to do God hasn’t done, nothing to see God hasn’t seen and nothing to know God doesn’t know.  And because God is a permanent fixture, it’s horrifying beyond even the wildest, most extravagant thought I can conjure up:

Eternal boredom!

To my tiny human imagination that situation is intolerable. I’m wondering: “What would God do in such a circumstance?”  The answer comes fully formed, as if I’ve swallowed a capsule with the information inside.  I know what God would do:

God would create a game to play.

I can see it as if The Game is laid out before me—as indeed it is!  If it had come in a box, it would have been labeled,

“God’s Game.”

What God wanted to do more than anything was to end the boredom; and not just for a little while, but for a long time—almost eternally.  I say almost because it was going to be a game, and, like all games, needed to have an ending.  What God wanted, needed, was to have the fresh, exhilarating experience that comes from not knowing what’s around the next bend in the road. Quite a feat when You know past, present and future.

What I imagined God wanted to do, was to experience ‘experience.’

That’s what God’s Game will be about—the experience of experiencing.

What God wanted was to experience the ultimate of ultimates: joy, rage, rapture, pain, passion, love, wonder, happiness, cruelty, cowardice, degradation, hopelessness, sadness, hate, ecstasy, sickness, health, war, disgust, bliss, boredom, gratitude, reverence, loathing, longing, envy, disdain, devotion, fear, lust, terror, rain, peace, tenderness, snow, relaxation, excitement, panic, heat, heartache, betrayal, inspiration, satisfaction, defeat, freedom, winning, cold, disappointment, thirst, villainy,  anger, desire, delight, exultation, dread, losing, celebration, triumph, redemption, killing, water, failure, horror, hunger, loneliness, starvation, kindness, gentleness, affection, all the degrees of love—and one of the greatest, ego.

God wanted to experience God

in all the trillion, trillion, trillion ways that everything in the Universe is experiencing—everything in the Universe.

Isn’t that what We’re all doing—experiencing?

We’re all God—We couldn’t be anything else—there was nothing else to begin with—so, everything that came after God was, is and ever will be—all God. Not all of God, but:

all God.

I began to think about the thought process that would go into the creation of The Game.  Of course, God could have just willed it into being with one mighty thought, but I couldn’t do that because, although I’m God, as You are God, We have only a tiny bit of all the original God powers, and I had to think my way through it. I began by thinking what The Game would be like, what it will have to be like, for me to be able to play.  So, here I am now, sitting in front of my fireplace, thinking my way through the creation of The Game:

as if I am God.

After 80 years on the planet, I have some information about the way things are, so I can imagine how it came about. To begin, there are two major problems.  The first is My omniscience, My all-knowingness; actually:

My Consciousness.

Remember now, I’m thinking my way through this as if I am God. So, as God, if I don’t get rid of My ability to see into the future, knowing everything, The Game won’t be any fun.  There won’t be any suspense, no sense of mystery no:


which is the whole point of The Game. Of course, as God, I will have already looked into the future and seen what was coming, so, I will have to figure out how to solve that most incredibly difficult problem.

The second problem is that I will need a game board to play on. Again, the answer comes, fully formed. I will solve both problems with one stroke:  As God, I will create the Universe.  Instead of playing on the board, I will play in the board.  Actually,

I will be the board.

The board will be made from Me, and I will use up all of Me in creating it.  I will spread Myself to Infinity and to Eternity, willing Creation.  Creation of what?  Well, look around, that’s what I will create:


As God, the greatest deed I will ever do will be:

The creation of the Universe.

After that, everything in My new Universe will be possible, even easy in comparison. My new Universe will always be perfect. It will exist in a stream of  absolute perfection and everything in it will be Alive.

“Universe” is derived from the Latin words “unus,” meaning “one” and “versus,” meaning, “to turn into.”  It means “one” “turned into” the Universe.  The creators of the early Latin language also conceived of God becoming the Universe.  Don’t you find that interesting?

The other major problem, the one about My omniscience, My all-knowingness, My all-seeingness, will be solved when I turn Myself into all those little Bits and Pieces of the Universe.  My God Awareness, God Knowledge, God Power, God Creativity and God Consciousness will be spread out over the totality, each tiny Particle receiving Its share, and therefore, My All Knowingness, My All-Seeingness, My God Consciousness, and ALL my God Powers, which are now concentrated, and therefore potent, will be spread out:

over the entirety

 and will be so reduced in potency that I will only be able to get glimpses of the future and the past.

And, wonder of wonders, every Particle will be different from every other Particle.  There will be no two snowflakes alike, no two spider webs alike, no two raindrops alike and no two blades of grass alike. Now, that is some feat. Talk about diversification:

It will be total!

And wonder of wonders, every infinitesimal Particle will possess a tiny portion of:


And every Particle will be afloat in a sea of:

My Consciousness.

What We will call:


Which is also:


In the creation of the Universe, I will use up all of Me; there will be no little portion left over with which to create mountain ranges, skies, galaxies, stars, black holes or planets.  Every part of Me will be used up, and Everything will be in its exact right place—always.

 I, speaking as God, certainly am not going to create a Universe in which truly bad things could happen to Me because if one truly bad thing could happen to Me, so could two, three, and more, leading to the possibility of destruction.

That is not going to happen!

That’s because the entire Universe will be made from:

is Me,
All is—One

As it is now, I am

Complete Existence.

 In order for Me to play, I will create a smooth, effortless, flowing of events that will follow one another in an unbroken flowing. It will become known as:


Eventually, after 13.82 billions of years of Time from the moment I will turn Myself into The Universe—pure, pristine and exquisite, and 4.543 billion years after Planet Earth will come into existence, My creativity will bring forth:

Thinking Beings:


Physically, you will be made of 93% Stardust and each of You will have a portion of all my God Powers and attributes. Most important, My God consciousness. You will be able to use that to imagine, to do, to create, and to destroy.  I do not mean to destroy in the total sense of the word. That power will be left out. I mean to destroy in the sense of returning a portion of All-That-Is to its original energy state. As, for example, when paper burns it will transform itself into heat Energy, which will be absorbed back into the mass of total Energy, or as when Someone will seem to die. The physical part of that Person will remain physical, although it will change as it decomposes or is burned up and will change into another form, but the part of the Person that is not physical, My Consciousness Part, which We will call Our Spirit or Soul:

Will continue to exist;

As God, I will create:

The Law of Evolution.

That Law will provide for the development of organisms along lines that lead toward ever greater complexity and consciousness; to manifest themselves as more of what they are made of:


To give You an idea of what it means that each tiny Particle of you will be Me and will have a part of all my God Powers and attributes, consider that an average Thinking Being will be made of atoms. How many? Seven followed by twenty-seven zeros.

7, 000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

That’s more atoms than there will be stars in our Milky Way Galaxy. It’s also a billion, billion billion.

Our sun will emit neutrinos, the smallest Particles We will know of, and they will pass through Us—constantly. How many? A trillion neutrinos will pass just through your pinky—every second. We will never see a neutrino; they’re too small. We will only know they exist because they will leave footprints behind as they travel.

Because each manifested Particle will have a tiny bit of all My original God information, My God powers, My God consciousness, each one of You will know, at some level, “What Is,” but because You may get caught up in The Game, You may forget to take time to look inside for the information so I’m going to provide You with this little book as a reminder.

The moment I will create the Universe, everything will be in its exact right place. Therefore, You will not be able to be out of place in the Universe.


Wherever You will be, that’s where You’re supposed to be, the only place You can be, doing whatever it is You’re doing. That, all by itself, should bring You a degree of peace, knowing You’re in the right place at the right time.  Even though by being in that place at that time, You might stub a toe, or worse, You will still be:

In the right place—at the right time.

Furthermore, whatever is happening to You at that moment is perfect, as I am perfect, and it will be for Your best benefit.  There is nothing else that could possibly happen to You that could benefit You more.  That’s because of:


Acting on the basis of that will bring You great happiness and vast abundance because:

It is

What Will Be

My God Consciousness will permeate everything and everyone. Thinking Beings will all be connected by it. The Consciousness and Awareness of Thinking Beings will be My consciousness, My Awareness. My Consciousness will flow through and be part of Everyone and Every Thing. All ideas will come from My Consciousness where all ideas and information will be stored, to be released at the proper time:

When Thinking Beings need them and are ready for them.

When We will need a new idea, Our thoughts will focus on what We need to know; then the flow will begin.

The greatest honor One will have will be simply:

To be part of the Universe.

And Who I, as the Universe, will honor with existence, Who I will deem to be worthy to receive air, water and the substance of the earth, Who I will love and care for, You, should not disdain:

because it is Me Who You will be disdaining.

Of course, I won’t abandon My Powers without a set of Rules, actually, Laws, that will regulate The Game. If there were no laws, it would leave everything in the hands of blind chance, what we will call:


If something went wrong, there would just be oblivion, as when the lights go out, and, because I am eternal, as My Universe will be eternal, the lights would be out:


A few words about chaos.  Real chaos, meaning total disorder and confusion where anything can happen, will be an impossibility in My Universe.

Only complete order will exist.

If anything less than complete order could exist, My Universe, meaning Me, would be in danger of destruction because anything could happen, including destruction. Therefore:

Chaos will not be a possibility.

It will just be a word that we will use to describe things we don’t understand. Because I do not want the lights to go out forever, into being will come:

The Laws of the Universe

 The Laws that will govern The Game.  As You might imagine, the first Law I create will be the Law of:

Conservation of Energy.

That Law will provide that none of the energy in My newly created Universe can ever be lost or damaged, only changed.  That’s because everything that will exist will be made from:


will be Me,


I don’t want to lose any of Me.

The next law will be:

Only the very best thing can happen to Us at any moment.

There will be no other event that could happen that could benefit us in any greater amount. The event may seem bad, look bad and feel bad—it may hurt Us, take something from Us: a prized possession, a Loved One, a goal not achieved, a desire not obtained or even the loss of a part of Ourselves, but in the final outcome—in My Universe—whatever happens will be of greatest benefit to Us—and everything else in the Universe as well.

Because, as God, I want to keep The Game interesting, the next Law will be:

The Law of Change.

That Law will provide that everything in my new Universe will be in a state of constant change and constant motion—everything except the Laws; they will remain unchanging—at least until The Game is won.

Please note that I did not say “won or lost.”

The possibility of losing will be zero—there will only be winning.  It may take a long time to win, perhaps billions of years, but:

in the end, The Game will be won.

On The Path to winning, it may sometimes seem as if one or more of Us is losing, but that’s just because some of Us will not be paying attention. We will either have forgotten Who-We-Are or We won’t have taken the time to find out. That Person will seem to be losing, but it’s;

“Losing on the way to winning.”

The losing part is only temporary. And even what seems like losing is actually winning because of what We learn while We seem to be losing.

Paying attention to the Laws, working in harmony with them, will bring great pleasure, supreme happiness, great abundance, and the sure knowledge that everything is:

exactly the way it’s supposed to be.

Not paying attention to the Laws will bring Us pain, unhappiness, disillusionment, stress, anxiety, and hopelessness. Why? Because that’s how We will be able realize that We are off The Path to winning.

The next Law will be:

Cause and Effect.

That Law will provide for a response to every change or action, with the response being in perfect accord with the change or action that caused it.  Cause and Effect will be a flowing of events:


Every change or action producing another—in perfect harmony—in perfect accord with the Laws of the Universe.

There will be no real Beginnings or Endings

just a smooth, continuous flowing of events and situations into other events or situations. Life and death, for instance, will be part of one recurring cycle. They will effortlessly flow into each other in accordance with Universal Law. Everything in My Universe will be part of one recurring cycle. And all recurring cycles will exist within larger recurring cycles which all will exist within Time, which always Will Be.

Knowing that the Law of Cause and Effect will require All-That-Is to respond to Us as We will be at every moment, We will be able to make changes or causes within Ourselves that will produce the outer conditions, the Effects, that are nearest and dearest to Our hearts.  Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t that wonderful? Would I, as God, create it in any other way?

Would You?

The next Law will be:

The Law of Opposites

That Law will dictate that for it to become light, it first must be dark. To become dark, it first must be light. To become hot, it first must be cold. To become cold, it first must be hot. To become short, it first must be long. To become long, it first must be short. To become dead, One first must be alive. And to become alive, One first must be dead. If it were not that way, it would be the only exception of My Universe that did not follow the Law of Opposites. And the Life and Death Cycle:

Absolutely follows the Law of opposites.

So, when that moment comes when Our hearts stop beating, transformation will continue on as it has from our birth; the Physical Part of us returning to earth, the Spiritual Part continuing on as Spirit. It will be like walking from one room into another and be:

No more remarkable than any other moment.

 As Spirit, We may, after a period of adjustment and learning, return to Our superb planet as another person, most likely emerging in the same family. At that time, We may not remember how We will have come to this planet, but We will surely know the way; and what We have done once:

We can certainly do again.

Because of the Law of Cause and Effect, a rock thrown into a pond will make ripples—every time—the bigger the rock, the bigger the ripples.  Just as We will be able to depend on that to be true and never be disappointed, We will be able to depend on all the causes to produce the same effects every time. For instance, if You knew the Laws that regulate Happiness, following them will always produce happiness. Once We learn to master The Game, We will know what causes will produce what effects; in other words: What actions to take that will produce the results We desire. In every situation or condition, by taking the appropriate action, We will be able to bring about:

any other condition or situation of life We choose.

To become a Master of The Game, you only will have to observe and study What Is, to see how it works.

As God, I will make many physical Laws, Laws that will govern matter, such as:

The Law of Gravity

A force of attraction that will hold celestial bodies in their orbits and that on Earth will assure that things will fall down and not up. It will also enable Us to see how much We weigh; something that for some reason will occupy a lot of Our thinking.

As God, I will create:


One of the greatest wonders of My New Universe, and:

A Law that will control the speed of light.

That Law will provide that light will travel at a velocity of 186,282 miles per second; no more—and no less.

That is: 670,616,629 miles per hour.

When a photon of light will leave what will be the sun, which will be ninety-three million miles from Planet Earth, it will take eight minutes and twenty seconds for the photon to reach what will be this spectacularly beautiful planet. Each photon of light will be a tiny packet of energy.  Its energy will not be released until the photon comes into contact with an object which will then cause the packet to explode, releasing its energy.  For instance, when We will stand in the sun, We will feel its heat because We will be bombarded with trillions and trillions of tiny photons of light that will impact Us traveling 186,282 miles per second which will explode on contact, releasing their energy as heat and radiation.

The photons of light that will enter Our eyes will create color and form by stimulating the 126 million rods and cones that will be in each of our eyes. However:

We will never see anything other than light photons.

We will never see a tree or a horse or a cow, not Our parents or Our friends, not even Ourselves—all We will ever see will be the light rays that will reflect off those objects into Our eyes where they will form images that will be received in Our brains, which will form a picture.

We will never see the objects themselves.

And the picture will not be “out there.”  It will be entirely inside Our brains—it only will seem as if it’s “out there.”

When the photons of light coming from the sun will enter the earth’s atmosphere, which is about 300 miles thick, some of them will collide with molecules and scatter blue light, causing the sky to appear blue.

It is interesting to note that light will not be propelled, as when We throw a ball or shoot a bullet, but whenever light exists, such as when We strike a match or turn on a light or gas burns as a distant Star, the photons of light will travel at that amazing speed of 186,282 miles per second: instantly.

No acceleration.

Some of the photons of light that We will see will have traveled through space for millions or billions of years before they reach Our eyes.   Therefore, when We will look into the night sky, We will actually be looking back in time to when those photons were first created. The distant stars that produced those photons will possibly have become extinguished thousands or even millions or billions of years ago. You will never see anything in its original, basic form because One: You will only be seeing light rays that bounce off of it and Two, you would be seeing:

My original form before Creation

That’s not Happening

Because seeing My Original Form, would be too much for Thinking Beings. Therefore, just by looking at something, it changes slightly from its original form to whatever it is you will see.

As God, I will want Us to know when We are on The Path to winning or losing, so I will create all the variations of unhappiness, emotional pain and joy.  Whenever We feel happiness, ecstasy, exhilaration, peace, pleasure, love, wonderment, reverence, thankfulness, joy, or feelings like those, We will be on The Path to winning; when We will feel unhappiness, frustration, hopelessness, avarice, hatred, greed, thoughtlessness, anger, revengefulness, ingratitude, emotional pain, or feelings like those, We will be on The Path toward losing.  Once We learn to recognize the signs of winning and losing, We will be able to make the necessary adjustments to Our feelings, thoughts and actions to remain on The Path to winning.  As God, I will make The Path to winning more pleasurable so I and You (as Me) will be encouraged to follow it.

A tip about pain: Emotional pain let’s Us know:

We are off The Path to winning.

Physical pain lets Our bodies know:

Where to send healing energy.

To make The Game even more interesting for Me and for You, I will bring forth the Law of:

Free Will.

That Law will provide for all Thinking Beings to do exactly as They please without reservation.

It will be total FREE will, unbounded and without limitation.

As God, I will want to be able to play The Game and do exactly as I please.  I will want to be able to experience anything and everything, which is why I will create The Game in the first place.  Therefore:

You, as God, will be able to do exactly as You please.

The more inventive You will be, the more You push out the boundaries of Your experience, the better—but remember!—the unbreakable, unbending Law of:

Cause and Effect

will also be part of The Game.

To make The Path more interesting, I will create earthquakes, tornadoes, tidal waves, fierce storms, floods, plagues, viruses, drugs, hurricanes, flowers, alcohol, avalanches, sex, spontaneity, music, war, and peace.  I will also create one of the greatest:


My greatest attribute is, and has always been:


My whole Universe will be saturated with Love, permeated with love because:

I am Love

To experience love will be to experience Me. Love will be the most pleasurable feeling We will be able to experience because it will be the closest One can get to experiencing:


Some there will be who will not experience love. Give them some of yours as no One needs Love more than One who does not feel it. The absence of Love will be the greatest despair One will experience, meaning They will not experience:


in My most wonderful manifestation.

I will also create one of the funniest:


To be an atheist means I won’t believe in Me!

Because, as God, I will create eternity within which to play, I will “rig” The Game.” Which means I will tip the scales toward winning because never to win through all eternity would be the same as losing and:

I don’t want to lose.

What does it mean “to tip the scales toward winning?”  It means that:

My Universe will be favorably inclined.

It means that there will be slightly more Light than Dark, that the more favorable outcome will be favored over the less favorable outcome, that We will have a better chance of achieving Our goals than not, and it means that everything will have a better chance of working out in Our favor than not. Would I, knowing I was creating a game for Myself to play, create it any other way?

Would You?

At some point in time, We will all win in My new Universe:

We cannot lose.

We will be indestructible children of a golden Universe.

We will be The Universe—a part of it.

We will be—Me.

Remember that, and You will play The Game differently, with more confidence, more love, more enthusiasm, more playfulness, with more of a carefree attitude, with more trust, and with more care for your Fellow Humans. (I will especially like that.) You might take more chances, be more confident. And why not?  You will be the Universe, You will be


It will not be any fun for Me if no One can appreciate what I will do, especially Me, so, the moment You will come to know Who-You-Are, You will also know what I have done (what You have done) and I will be able to experience that—through You.

What a thrill!

When any one of Us finally perceives Who He or She Is, it will be like opening the greatest gift of all time and finding out that We get to keep it:


It will be the greatest experience of this or any lifetime. It will absolutely be one of My favorite experiences. Which brings Us to the Object of The Game, a way to win. So, what will be the Object of The Game?

For all Thinking Beings to become aware of Who-They-Are.

Using Our Free Will, Our Intellect, Our Intuition, Our Perception and Our Consciousness, We will finally figure out:


Every single Thinking Being does not have to figure it out on His or Her own.  When enough of Us have figured out Who-We-Are, a point of critical mass will be achieved at which time Everyone will become aware of Who-They-Are and the Game will be won.

Hooray for You, Hooray for Me, Hooray for Us!

That will be a time of such exultation and ecstasy that it will create a climax of joy so great, so intense, as to eclipse even the moment I will create the Universe, and instantly all Parts of Me will come back together again in the sheer joy of unity, knowing We-Are-All-One.

And so God spread Himself/Herself to Infinity and to Eternity, Willing the creation of All That Is!

Now—We have a place to play and Rules that govern The Game; and:

The game is on!  We can play!

Welcome to


Other books by Chris

Zen and The Art of Happiness

Be Who You Want, Have What You Want

The Laws of Love

The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure: Co-author Pax Prentiss

The Little Book of Secrets

The Alliance (Not yet published)

Sober Place (Not yet Published) Co-author Pax Prentiss

Books by wu wei (Chris’s Chinese name)

The I Ching, The Book of Answers

The I Ching Workbook

A Tale of the I Ching (How the I Ching Began)

I Ching Wisdom, Volume One

I Ching Wisdom, Volume Two

I Ching Readings: Interpreting the Answers

I Ching Life (Becoming Your Authentic Self)

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15 Things to do Instead of Smoking a Cigarette

By Jennifer McDougall

Quitting nicotine can be tough. For many people, it doesn’t happen overnight and anyone who has ever tried to quit smoking cigarettes will tell you how difficult it is. Here at Passages Addiction Treatment Centers we have several suggestions for you to do instead of smoking. Whenever you have a sudden desire to light up, do one of these 15 things instead.

  1. Have a cup of herbal tea
  2. Go for a walk or run
  3. Get out your notebook and write down your thoughts, ideas, frustrations, worries, or fantasies
  4. Have a healthy snack
  5. Take a nap
  6. Do some gardening
  7. Begin to color in one of those awesome adult coloring books
  8. Play a game on your phone or computer
  9. Meditate
  10. Spend time at a place nearby where smoking is not allowed
  11. Clean the house
  12. Take a relaxing bath
  13. Go swimming
  14. Organize a junk drawer or closet
  15. Appreciate your smoke free living space and lifestyle

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Addiction, Dependency, Teen Addiction, Withdrawal

Quit Smoking Cigarettes with These Simple Tips

Cigarette addiction is one of the most common addictions around the world. An estimated 1 billion people worldwide smoke cigarettes; of those 1 billion people, 5 million die each year from nicotine related illnesses. Are you one of the many people fighting to quit this bad habit? Take a moment and ask yourself this simple, yet important question: “When I get the urge to smoke, what is it that triggers me to want to light up?” It could be that you smoke as a habit when you’re bored, or in a social environment that causes you anxiety. Maybe it’s when you take a break at work and step outside with co-workers. Maybe it’s when you’re winding down at the end of the day. Maybe it’s after you have an intense conversation with someone who stresses you out. It could be part of your routine commute. Regardless of what your reason is, this habit is anything but a smart choice.

What are the effects of smoking cigarettes?

  • Cigarettes increase the risk of heart disease
  • Increases the risk of lung cancer
  • Smokers have a higher chance of heart attacks
  • Plays a major role in emphysema
  • Increases the risk of breast cancer
  • Weakens sense of taste and smell
  • Deterioration in mental health and function (Alzheimer’s disease and dementia)
  • Raises the risk of lupus – autoimmune disease
  • Creates unwanted fine lines on your hands, neck, and face
  • Cigarettes leave a strong foul odor on your body and clothes
  • They turn your teeth yellow
  • Most men and women find smoking to be unattractive and a deal breaker
  • Once you start smoking it can be very difficult to quit
  • Visible acceleration in aging
  • Can make you feel sluggish and unmotivated
  • Maternal smoking increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome
  • Damages internal tissue and blood vessels in the body
  • Men who smoke are more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction
  • Known to cause blood clots
  • Linked to colon cancer
  • Increases symptoms of depression


At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we understand that addiction of any kind is a challenging battle to overcome. Sometimes we need support and here at Passages, we are happy to provide you with these 20 helpful tips that will help you to overcome your addiction to nicotine and cigarettes.

How to Quit Smoking Cigarettes

  1. Be willing and ready to quit smoking
  2. Quit buying cigarettes
  3. Get rid of your lighters
  4. Create smoke free zones (your car, office, and outside patio)
  5. When you have a sudden desire to buy a pack of cigarettes, force yourself to keep driving- do not stop to buy cigarettes under any circumstances
  6. Daily meditation either in the morning or when you have a craving
  7. Schedule a few appointments for acupuncture within the first 30 days of quitting
  8. Choose from a list of herbal supplements
  9. Make a list of things to do instead of smoking
  10. Avoid being around people who smoke
  11. Change up your routine (even if those changes are small)
  12. Practice saying no with total confidence so you are not pressured into any bad choices
  13. Get moving and exercise daily
  14. Keep track of the amount of money you’re saving by not buying cigarettes
  15. Share the good news with your friends and family
  16. Give yourself some credit and reward yourself with a sweet treat or new outfit
  17. Get outside and breathe in fresh air every day, if possible
  18. Practice breathing exercises to relieve stress and cleanse your lungs – providing oxygen to your brain and bloodstream
  19. Create and maintain a healthy diet
  20. Stay hydrated with plenty of water throughout the day


What to expect when you quit smoking

Nicotine changes the way your brain operates so it should be no surprise when the withdraw symptoms kick in and you feel like a mess. Do not worry.  This is temporary. As your body adapts to no longer being fed nicotine it will adjust and you will feel remarkably healthier and better-off. Here is what to be look out for while going through the withdrawal phase.

  • Mood swings
  • Increased irritability
  • Change in appetite
  • Lack of sleep or insomnia
  • Surge of energy
  • Trouble focusing


Many Benefits of Not Smoking Cigarettes

There are several benefits to not smoking cigarettes. Here is just a handful to start.

  • Experience increased energy
  • Breathe more clearly
  • Have fresh breath
  • Regain your sense of taste and smell
  • Improve fertility
  • Feel healthier
  • No more “Smokers Cough”
  • Feel less stressed
  • Improve the quality of performance in the bedroom
  • Children and other family members are not affected by heavy toxins in cigarettes
  • Live a longer life
  • Smell beautifully again

Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams, Blog Edition

By Jennifer McDougall featuring, Chris Prentiss

“A relationship is like a garden. To create a condition that will cause your plants to thrive and produce abundantly, you must weed, water, fertilize, and care for the plants in your garden. You must also know about the special needs of the plants you’re caring for. Some need more or less light than others, some need more or less water than others, and some need special fertilizers.”

– The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss

After a series of failed relationships and heartbreak, I searched everywhere for the one book that could help explain everything there was to know about creating the relationship I have always dreamed of. It was not until reading The Laws of Love that my relationships became healthier and more steady. Whether or not those relationships lasted, they were healthier. With the help of this book, I learned about the many aspects of a healthy relationship, different approaches to try in difficult situations, healing my own wounds from the past, and when to walk away from a toxic relationship.

One thing you must know before we continue is this: “Attraction may be what draws us to another to create a relationship, but it is not what keeps us together. Attraction blooms in the beginning of a relationship because of physical attraction or sexual attraction or because a certain need is being fulfilled, but those impulses will all wear off, some sooner, some later.” (The Laws of Love, p. 150-151) If your relationship is solely based on attraction, you’re doomed. There must be depth to the bond you and your partner have other than the attraction you have towards one another.

For years, I found myself in unstable relationships with partners I had no business planning a future with. The trouble wasn’t always them either. In some cases, it was me. I accepted the love I felt I deserved.  There was little I truly understood about creating a healthy relationship. Reflecting on this now, I realize there’s a lot of drama I could of avoided if I read this book a lot sooner in life. Relationships are not always easy. Sometimes we need help. That is exactly what this book can do for you. Whether you are currently in a relationship or looking for one, this little gem can point you in the right direction to creating the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.

  1. If You Would Be Loved, Love Yourself

“Love yourself first and everything else will fall into line.” -Lucille Ball

To love yourself, does not mean to be in love with yourself. As Chris Prentiss states it in his book, “The kind of love I am talking about has nothing to do with being so caught up with your own accomplishments or success that you become egotistical, or being vain about successful family members, acquaintances, or family friends. And it has nothing to do with physical beauty or social status. Rather, the love I’m talking about is the regard you hold for your personal attributes of good character.” (The Laws of Love, p. 159) When we practice self-love, we take better care of ourselves and make decisions based upon the high respect we have for ourselves. Someone who does not love themselves, usually makes poor life choices- and participates in self-destructive behaviors. They tend to get themselves in trouble and attract an unnecessary amount of negative energy.

When we stop for a moment and realize how unique we are, how different we are, and how much we have to offer the world, we learn to appreciate our many gifts, talents, and the abundant amount of opportunities we have to be thankful for. To be loved, you must first learn to love yourself. Practice taking better care of your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. When you do these things you will attract positive people and events in your life. There is a wonderful meditation called, “Meditation on the Perfect You.” This 24-minute meditation will help cultivate a deep inner peace that will ultimately expand your consciousness and transform the way you see yourself; allowing the pleasures and fulfillment that you seek come to life.

Tips on practicing acts of self-love include:

  • Maintaining a positive attitude from the second you wake up till you fall asleep at night.
  • Eat healthy and stay hydrated with plenty of pH balanced and alkaline water.
  • Avoid the use of all nicotine, drugs, and alcohol.
  • Practice a healthy hygiene and grooming routine.
  • Surround yourself with positive reinforcements and those who encourage, motivate, and support you. Avoid toxic people/energy.
  • Embrace changes and challenges in your life instead of dwelling on them.
  • Meditate at least once a day.
  • Get outside. Breathe in the fresh air and soak up the Vitamin D.
  1. Relationships Only Thrive in Safe Space

“If the environment in which your relationship lives is harsh and unforgiving, a place where sarcasm, degradation, and anger is present and where forgiveness, thoughtfulness, and love are in short supply, your relationship will wither and die…painfully.” – The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss

Safe Space, is the space you create in your relationship that allows you and your partner to speak freely about your thoughts and feelings without any judgement, anger, or fear. It means “… in your eyes, your partner cannot make a mistake or do anything wrong.” (The Laws of Love, p. 69) Communication is one of the upmost important aspects of creating a healthy relationship. You and your partner must listen to one another fully– without interrupting them. If your partner has something on their mind or if something is bothering them, allow them to let it all out without responding harshly. Creating Safe Space removes fear from your relationship. When you know you can go to your partner about anything in the world and they are not going to attack you, you will be more likely to continue a free-flowing movement of communication in your relationship. And that is a very pleasant feeling.

Deal breakers and non-apologetic transgressions are still to be taken seriously. You should not make excuses for your partner’s reckless behavior or over indulgence in drugs and alcohol, and excessive financial spending habits. There should still be a fine line between right and wrong in your relationship.

To learn how to create Safe Space in your relationship pick up a copy of The Laws of Love today.

  1. Your Relationship Will Endure When You Make It Your Primary Priority

“To enjoy a meaningful way of life and produce a long-lasting relationship, you must place the continuation of your relationship above everything else.” – The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss

In order to have a successful relationship, you must put your relationship and your partner first, always. Before making any type of decision consider your partner in the equation. If the decision is going to have a negative effect on your relationship, your best bet is to avoid making that particular choice. Avoid doing anything that could jeopardize the relationship. Every decision has a consequence so everything you do and say should be taken into consideration, as it will most likely affect your partner and your relationship. When we don’t put our relationships first and prioritize other people, our jobs, or anything else instead we run the risk of losing the person we love. Remember: this is a partnership. It’s not the same as it was when you were single. Your words and actions now play the role in two lives now, instead of only one.

Photo by: Jennifer McDougall

Photo by: Jennifer McDougall

  1. An Ideal Relationship Can Only Exist Within Complete Trust

“Trust is the greatest of all foundations on which to build your relationship. Trust makes it possible for you to tell your partner your deepest fears, greatest shames, and most private thoughts without fear of ridicule or misunderstanding. Trust permits you both to soar free, roaming the skies of love without fear of falling.” – The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss

It’s a wonderful thing to know that you can trust someone; that no matter what you can depend on them to follow through. Trust is something many people struggle with because of events that might have taken place in the past. When we stop worrying and learn to trust one another, there is a strong sense of security that is felt. That security helps strengthen a relationship creating less room for jealousy and doubt. In The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss points out this very valuable key in creating the relationship of your dreams. He also mentions that you and your partner should both act in a way that represents loving, faithful, and respectful partnership. The two of you should trust one another not to flirt or do things you wouldn’t do if you were together.

To learn what you should do if that trust is broken, pick up a copy of The Laws of Love today.

  1. Successful Relationships Require Light from the Past

“Past relationships have created impressions and behavior patterns that carry over into your current relationship, affecting it in many ways. That includes relationships with parents and friends as well as with other people who have shaped you and your partner, particularly love relationships—the good as well as the bad.” -The Laws of Love, Chris Prentiss

Ever wonder why your partner reacts a certain way when you bring up a particular topic? Or how they shut down when you get after them about something? Do you ever wonder why they don’t open up to you when you ask certain questions? Or why they get sensitive during certain holidays or events? Chances are there are things in the past that have happened that effects the way your partner handles current events and circumstances. It’s important for the two of you to talk about past relationships, traumatic events, abuse, even joyful moments, hopes, and fantasies. Explaining to your partner why you are the way you are, will help give them insight into the person you are in the present moment. Keeping an open line of communication is very important and there is also where having Safe Space can be helpful. Doing these things will help you and your partner understand how to best treat one another.


Q & A with Chris Prentiss, the author himself  

J: Which one of the Laws of Love would you say is most important in creating the relationship of your dreams?

C: Creating safe space.

J: When did you first know you were in love with your wife, Lyn?

C: After a few months of occasional meetings and sending and receiving email, Lyn was in Hawaii, I began to perceive the wonderful, caring, sensitive woman Lyn is. What started as physical attraction, deepened into admiration for the person Lyn is, then into affection, then love blossomed. After 15 years, the love is stronger than ever.

J: What characteristics do you feel are most important when trying to find love?

C: You can’t find love. Love finds you. Gibran wrote, “Do not think you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.” When we wish for someone to love, we are deceiving ourselves. What we are actually searching for is someone to love us.

Jennifer McDougall w/ The Laws of Love

Jennifer McDougall w/ The Laws of Love

To read all of the 14 Laws of Love in detail, please purchase a copy of The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams, please visit,

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Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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What are the Underlying Causes of Addiction?

By Jennifer McDougall

Addiction (defined as a state characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences) generally begins with the desire to escape—pain, loss, heartache, rejection, discomfort, anxiety, chemical imbalances in the brain, and depression. When drugs and alcohol are consumed they affect how the brain operates and processes information. Three areas of the brain most affected by drugs and alcohol are the brain stem (controls heart rate, breathing, and sleeping patterns), the cerebral cortex (delivers information from our senses allowing us to see, feel, hear, and taste), and the limbic system (controls our ability to feel pleasure). After using drugs and alcohol for even a short period of time a person could experience immediate dependency (defined as an adaptive state associated with a withdrawal syndrome upon cessation of repeated exposure to a stimulus). They may feel the urge to continue using in order to keep them going and avoid the awful withdrawal symptoms that are associated with the use of drugs and alcohol.

In a recent study it was shown that an estimated 23.5 million Americans suffer from an addiction to drugs and alcohol. Of those 23.5 million only 1 out of 10 people receive the treatment they desperately need. About 570,000 people die each year because of an addiction to drugs and alcohol. So as you see, treatment is crucial.

At Passages, we do not believe that drug and alcohol dependency is a disease. Instead, we believe it is the result of one or more of the following four causes:

  1. Chemical imbalance
  2. Unresolved events from the past
  3. Beliefs you hold that are inconsistent with what is true
  4. Inability to cope with current conditions

Anyone who is abusing drugs and alcohol is doing so because of one or more of these four causes. Through extensive research and direct experience, we have learned that addiction is not the primary problem but rather the symptom of a deeper underlying issue.

Passages is proud to offer you the finest drug rehab & treatment program available anywhere. Our deluxe rehabilitation and treatment center has been rated #1 by Healthcare Global magazine. Forbes magazine also named Passages Malibu one of the most luxurious rehab centers in the world.

This recognition comes after years of perfecting our treatment program and sticking with our core philosophy for treating addiction. While most rehab centers still offer group meetings for treatment, we provide you with a customized, one-on-one therapy program tailored to your specific needs.

“I began asking myself just what my high was about. What did I do when I was high that I didn’t do when I was sober? What was wrong that heroin fixed?”
― Pax PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“A friend tells you the truth, that your breath stinks and you need a bath. An enemy tells you that you look great and you shouldn’t change a thing.”
― Nikki SixxThe Heroin Diaries: A Year In The Life Of A Shattered Rock Star 

“Alcohol and drugs are not the problems; they are what people are using to help themselves cope with the problems. Those problems always have both physical and psychological components- anything from anemia, hypoglycemia, or a sluggish thyroid to attention deficient disorder, brain-wave pattern imbalances, or deep emotional pain.”
― Chris PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

“I spent the rest of that day and most of the night thinking about all the hundreds of people I had met in rehabs and sober living houses and on the streets. We were all medicating our fears and our pain!”
― Pax PrentissThe Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

To avoid getting wrapped up in the awful cycle of addiction, we recommend practicing these 7 healthy habits everyday.

  1. Surround yourself with positive influences who encourage you, motivate you, respect you, and tell you the truth.
  2. Eat right, stay hydrated, and exercise daily. This is essential to your physical and mental wellbeing.
  3. Practice meditation to care for your spiritual health.
  4. Maintain a positive outlook and perspective on life and current situations.
  5. Embrace a sober lifestyle. There are plenty of things you can do and enjoy without the use of drugs and alcohol.
  6. Keep your mind active and challenged by reading, writing, and pursuing your passions.
  7. Know when to put your foot down and say NO when you disagree or feel pressured into doing something you don’t feel right about.

At Passages Addiction Treatment Centers, we focus on helping our clients heal the underlying conditions that are causing them to use and abuse drugs and alcohol. Unlike most treatment centers, we do not label you an addict or believe that you are powerless. Instead we utilize a variety of 19 holistic healing methods that empower you to grow in ways you may never had thought possible before. Don’t wait another day to break free from the brutal cycle of addiction. The time has come to make a change and begin living a healthy, happy, and sober life. Call us today!



Call Passages Addiction Treatment Centers today if you or a loved one is battling an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. Our admissions department is available 24/7 and can be reached directly by calling our toll-free number at (888) 397-0112. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

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Photo by: Jennifer McDougall